We’re shaken again by an untimely death. This time it’s lovely song bird Whitney Houston. What happened? What happens now?
The older I get, the more mysterious life and death seem to be. We understand so little about death and yet it happens to everyone. We really don’t know what happens on the other side, but there is much spiritual activity going on.
Several years ago, my younger son died very suddenly. I found myself doing something I have never done before: I prayed for the dead. For one full year, I prayed for my son every day because something inside me was telling me that he had not passed over to the other side. I had a strong uneasy feeling my son had some work to do before making that transition.
When I was a child, my Roman Catholic friends would talk about many things that Catholics do but Protestants do not. I thought their idea of praying for the dead did not make sense, but I found myself caught up in the need to pray for my son and his soul. The older he got, the more troubled he was. He had a very difficult time dealing with the reality of life as an adult. This carried over into his death. I felt compelled to pray for him until he made that transition. I had no idea how long it would take and how it would work. Slowly I began learning to trust God and face the mystery of life and death.
One day I received a telephone call from an old friend who was deeply spiritual and seemed to have divine connections. My friend said to me, “I had a dream about your son Chuck last night – and in the dream he told me to call you and tell you that he is alright.” Two nights later, I also had a dream about my son. He was sitting in a boat, one similar to a lifeboat. It was not unusual to see Chuck in a boat because his whole life was about boats and he worked many years as ferry boat captain. I saw my son in my dream, sitting in the center of this lifeboat in a very upright position. He did not move his head or say anything. He just sat there looking straight ahead. The boat was caught in mud flats. Slowly the boat began to inch its way through the mud flats, and finally reached the open water. Then suddenly the boat picked up speed and in a moment’s time was out of my sight completely. I woke up and had the feeling that Chuck had made the transition and he was alright. I never felt the need to pray for him again; he was completely in God’s hands.
What this has done for me has given me further proof that life goes on and death is not the end. This is only one experience and we have so much to learn and so much more growing to do. I hope that by telling you this story about someone that was close to me, it will help explain some of the mystery of death.
Bless you as you continue your journey in the ever exciting movement of the spirit.
Thank you so much for a thoughtful reflection. It resonates with me.
Dear Blair -
I think of you often and hope things are going well with you. You are most kind to respond to my blog. This means a lot to me.
If you ever get to New York again, please give me a call and we can break bread. I’d love to do that.
Thank you, Arthur, for sharing this..
Strangely enough, I have thought of Chuck often in the last month….your story did my soul good.
Blessings & Peace,
Billy
Billy -
Your comment about “The Other Side” and my son Chuck is very meaningful to me. I still miss that rascal and look forward to the time when we can reconnect on the other side.
Arthur
Thank you for sharing that story about your son and his transition. I appreciate your honesty and your messages continue to inspire me.
Janelle Shaughnessy
Arthur,
About 25 years ago, a close friend of mine had a dream about her 21-year-old son, from whom she had been estranged. In the dream, he drove up to her house in a yellow convertible, waved, and told her he was going on a long trip.
Moments later, she was awakened by a phone call. On a rugged climb, he had fallen from a mountain top and died.
Love,
Emily Hancock
Dear Dr. Caliandro,
once again you touch my heart..& help me make sense of such a tradgedy.
i’m so sorry about your son..that is so sad…:-( My mother-in-law is 90 yrs old…in the past 14 yrs she has buried 3-sons…a grandson.. very recently her great grandson who was only 9-yrs old to suicide..in September, 2011..then her husband of many yrs..in december..This special beautiful woman amazes me every single day..she still cooks ..drives to see her sister who is in a nursing home..among the many things she does everyday to make everyone’s lifes a little easier…What a blessing she is..I wish i lived closer to her..she is 4-hrs away..Please keep her in your prayers. (Loretta Rose) a beautiful rose she is<3.I will keep you and yours in mine..You are also very special..you still make others feel better in thier lifes..a special gift from God..<3<3<3
Love & Blessings to you,
Jeanne Linscott
Jeanne,
Thank you for your comments and for sharing your story about Loretta Rose. She sounds like an incredible woman. You and she are in my prayers. Bless you.
Arthur – You are so much in our thoughts and prayers. I miss you. Ed talks about you all the time. We’ll be in touch. I didn’t know you had a blog but now we’re subscribed and will keep up. We love you and miss you – June and Ed.
Arthur- You have been on my mind for many days. I often think of things you have said-your sermons-your writing -you! So happy that I have found your blog. You continue to inspire me. God bless you always. Marion Holmes